Mandy Francisty on Intuition and Following Your Heart

 

By Mandy Francisty

 
Copyright: Mandy Francisty

Copyright: Mandy Francisty

 

Court:
We’re officially recording, so welcome to everyone that is watching and welcome to you, lovely Mandy!

Mandy:
Thank you! Thanks for having me.

Court:
Oh, thank you for being here! For those of you that don’t know, the Thrive theme for February was all about reclaiming your New Year’s goals and I think a major part of that for so many people I know is actually following the goals that mean something to you and are actually in your heart. Because so often I think we get caught up in what we “should” be doing. And someone I know that has this amazing ability to listen to her intuition and follow her heart is you, Mandy! And I thought you’d be the perfect person to bring on here!

Mandy:
Awesome, thank you!

Court:
Mandy and I met almost a year ago, just kind of by chance, kind of not – via social media I guess – when I connected with her when I found out she was moving to Christchurch from Perth, and that was a major thing for you around following your heart… before we start, why don’t you introduce yourself!


Mandy:
Cool – thanks Courto! – I call you Courto! 

Court:
I love it!

Mandy:
Obviously, I’m Mandy. I do a lot of different things. Australian – from my accent – as well, recently moved back to Australia from Christchurch. I use a lot of different techniques to empower women, in particular, but men as well, to lead a life lead by love and not fear – in all areas of their life. And come back to a place of self-love and self-empowerment. So I do a lot of work with body image but it’s most importantly about their internal world and how you feel about yourself.

Court:
I think that’s so beautiful. And I can personally say Mandy has been such a game changer – and life changer – I have never met someone who is so driven to provide the people that she is around – whether that is in a yoga class or a workshop or whatever that may be – but you provide such a beautifully holistic experience. If you are ever around when Mandy is doing a workshop or a retreat, you need to go! So getting back to you following your intuition, how did you know back when you moved to Christchurch from Australia, that was the right decision for you?

Mandy:
I reflected a lot on this question last night and to start of with, it’s taken me many years to learn to trust my intuition and trust myself. But that came from starting to know myself more. So in the past, I’m sure everyone has those little nudges and feelings inside of them, where it could be just as simple as ‘I should turn left, not right, and then you turn right and think damn it, I should have turned left!’ That’s starting to practice connecting to your intuition.

I think before I came to Christchurch I was at a phase in my life where I’d begun to trust myself and know myself a lot more and start to disconnect myself from society’s social constraints or beliefs. So when I was living a life where I was comparing myself to others and wanting to be a certain thing or doing a certain thing, compared to expectations of others – that’s when I wasn’t listening to my intuition. But by removing those layers of social conditioning and coming back to a place of my authentic self, that’s when I could listen a little bit more.

The second part was allowing myself to connect to emotions and feelings that were coming up. So before I moved to New Zealand, I was on a holiday there but living in Perth and I was feeling like it wasn’t the place for me anymore, I was feeling frustrated and bogged down and treading water. Didn’t want to get out of bed – just wasn’t me at all. I could have decided to push it away and not listen to those strong signals of ‘there needs to be a change ‘ – I could have continued to live Groundhog Day every day. But instead of went on a holiday because I know a holiday is great for me to disconnect from my world and take some time to focus on me, so when I was in New Zealand I was feeling a little frustrated and weird and not me. So I took some time - I love journaling - just to do some free-flow journaling, wrote some things down and realised I needed to make a change and to upheave where I was living and move to Christchurch.

The final icing on a cake was when I went for a walk in Hagley Park while my friend was working, sat under a tree and meditated, and literally asked myself ‘why are you feeling this way?’ And a little voice popped into my head and was like ‘why are you resisting moving to Christchurch?’ And I was like ‘Oh… okay?! Alright… move here! Literally – that’s what it was like! People will be thinking, ‘What the hell… so you meditated and it told you to move to Christchurch so you did…?’ But that’s basically what happened so I was like, ‘Alright!’ And then as soon as I made that decision, it was like all those feelings of frustration and weirdness had gone! And it was like ‘Oh! This is what I have to decide to do!’


Court:
Like a weight off your shoulders!

Mandy:
Yeah! Literally!

Court:
And I know we spoke about – there’s a beautiful walk in Christchurch, for anyone that knows it, Godley Head – and I know you said that you’d seen it before and at some point you knew you were going to be there, right? 

Mandy:
Yeah – in heaps of my sound activations with my healer in Australia and in meditations I’d seen a grassy hill, and then one day on an airplane and the words ‘Godley Heads’ came into my mind – which was trippy – and I researched it and was like ‘Oh my god Awhina – my friend – this is what I’ve been seeing in my meditations all the time!’ So kind of, in all areas of your life – dreams, visions, signs around you – you’ll see things that are helping you align with where you’re meant to be in life. But it’s your choice whether you become aware of those and decide to listen to those or not.

Court:
I think that’s beautiful. And as an aside, you look so one with nature  – Mandy can’t actually see herself – but there’s little butterflies flying around, you just look so beautiful – I love it! So you have recently decided – so Mandy was here for almost a year, 11 months – and you recently decided that you were going to have a bit of a change and you were going to go back but between Perth, Bali and Tasmania – so how did that all come about? 

Mandy:
Kind of a similar situation to be honest. Moved to New Zealand and that was for a lot of growth within myself, I feel like a totally different woman to the woman that arrived when I met you. And I definitely came there I think as a catalyst to awaken some of Christchurch and inspire the people of Christchurch to heal and come back to a place of self-love and self-worth. So in doing that I opened up my yoga studio and I realised – kind of like the same as when I wanted to move to New Zealand – I was feeling a little bit stuck and weird and Groundhog Day again in that space. So I went on a little holiday up north, to the North Island, and it’s always that time when I can disconnect from my everyday world that I have space for more clarity and that’s when I have a clearer mind and can hear messages coming in and focus on my internal world. So I did a bit of journaling up there and I realised that the yoga studio – it wasn’t really the thing for me, it was because that’s what I believed that’s what success was. And I’d always thought I should open one – never did, I always had a resistance – but this year I thought ‘No, I’m going to do it!’ And it taught me a lot, and it was amazing, but I also learnt that that’s not what I truly want in my heart, either. So I meditated on that as well and connected to my heart – that’s a big thing for me – disconnected from here [head] and connecting to here [heart]. And realised that my whole life I’ve wanted this free life – to travel around, to do workshops, to do my online coaching, retreats – and family is very important to me, so spending time with family in Tassie but also living in warmer climates that I love where my friends are in Perth and Bali… and also go back to New Zealand! I had a belief that I couldn’t do that. Because I didn’t think I was worthy of doing it, didn’t have the knowledge, didn’t think I could. But then something just totally switched in my brain and I was like ‘Damn right I can!’, so that’s what I’m doing!

Court:
I love it! And honestly, I said this to you the other day and I feel like anyone in Christchurch who has had anything to do with you will agree – Mandy is like Mary Poppins! She flies in and shares all this goodness around self-love and then she’s off to do that somewhere else! And I think it’s so amazing that you’ve taken what your heart is saying and going that’s what I actually want – and having the courage to foloow that. So, to you, what does listening to your intuition and following your heart – what does that mean to you?

Mandy:
It means living a life of alignment with who you truly are and what you want to do and letting go of judgements and social constraints as well. Because like I said at the start, I felel like often when people don’t listen to their intuition or haven’t listened to their intuition, it comes from a place of maybe – for me I know it was – of fear of judgement, what other people would think. So closing my yoga studio, I had to come over a lot of guilt of leaving and shutting it down – I knew a lot of people were dependent on me. But a big belief in myself is that I want to be a catalyst for people to heal and learn that they can heal themselves. So after a while, I was like, ‘No, people are going to find this an inspiration, like I’m following my heart’ and I don’t want people to become dependent on me because everything that I teach others is what you can do yourself.

So letting go of that fear of judgement and also the belief of maybe society or maybe family… a lot of people think ‘how can you actually survive traveling around? How can you do this? That’s not very stable…’ This and that. But for me, that’s stability and that’s leading in alignment with what I want to do. So following your heart and listening to your intuition is definitely just doing things that are aligned with who you want to be and where you want to go and letting go of a lot of fear and judgement, and even scarcity really. 

 Court:
Absolutely. And it is so hard, like you say, to bring those things away from each other – what society wants versus what aligns with you. Because it is so true, for so many people, the idea of traveling between the places you travel would be daunting, and like you say, where’s the stability in that? But for you – you’re such a beautiful person, and you love having flow in your life, and it just suits you. So it’s so great to see you listening to that and following that. For you, and you’ve spoken about getting out of your head and into your heart and listening to your heart, what are your best tips for anyone who feels like they’re in their head constantly, their life isn’t aligned?


Mandy:
Number one is stop! Because we keep busy, busy, busy, busy, busy… and that doesn’t allow for us to get out of our heads and into our hearts. So the first thing is literally stop – you have time to stop – take some time out. So stop – and the best way to disconnect from your head and connect with your heart is to connect to your body and your breath. So the thing I generally do if I’m feeling frustrating or if I don’t know what path to take - this is what I did in regards to moving back to Australia and closing my studio – I love, it’s kind of like a meditation or a guided hypnotherapy kind of thing – that I like to do with myself and clients.

You picture a path – so the first path I pictured was staying in my yoga studio and I could feel in my body, I could feel anxiety and darkness… you can literally feel in your physiology which is the better choice. So I cleared my slate and I pictured my second choice, traveling around… and I felt light and airy and free! So the most important thing is to disconnect from your head and connect with your heart by using your breath. Big, deep, long belly breaths, and just practising that. So when you practise that and connect to your breath it just automatically does bring you out of your head. But it takes practice and time – and as you know through yoga and practising breath-work and meditation – that’s one of the trialled and tested and powerful ways to bring you out of your head and into your heart.

Court:
It’s so true. It’s such a powerful tool!

Mandy:
And it can be scary!

Court:
Absolutely!

Mandy:
And just one thing I wanted to make a comment on. When I thought of the path of the yoga studio, I felt a bit of anxiety and a bit of fear and yuckiness. And also following the path and the way I want to feel – it’s normal to feel a bit of anxiety and nervousness and a little bit of fear when it comes to change – whether it’s positive change or negative change, our minds want to keep us in what’s called the ‘safe space’. So when you’re making a change – even if it’s a really positive change – you’re going to have that little bit of fearfulness because it’s the unknown. But through time – I don’t think there’s any scientific way to connect with trust or faith, it just takes time to connect to that and believe that whatever path you take is the one that you’re meant to.

Court:
And it is hard trusting that – whether you’re making the right decision! But I think they are beautiful tips. And you’re so right – it does take time! When I first started going back to yoga with Mandy, it was so hard to connect, and it does take time! They are really beautiful tips, thank you. And on that level, what are your tips – when you feel like the path you’re taking, when you have anxiety around that path – do you have any tips to trust in that a little bit more, or to process those feelings?

Mandy:
Yep! I’m a bit of a list writer and I am really passionate about journaling as well. So whenever I’m feeling fearful of something, I always take time to feel that fear. You don’t want to push it away because it’ll just stay there and build and build. And realise what is it that I’m fearful of? Then I do a big brain dump and write it all down. Then I’ll think of the worst-case scenarios for all of them… and then I realise, that’s not really anything to be fearful of! And often when we’re fearful or anxious – well anxiety is just fear of the future. So we can’t control the future, so the best thing for me to do that has really changed my life and it’s bizarre – I finally feel like this year I’m living in it – is living in the now. And not thinking about the future – because the future is what creates anxiety and fear. So we come up with all these stories of what if this might happen or that might happen, and 90 percent of the time it’s not actually going to happen.

So the best thing to do – obviously have a bit of an action plan and not just be blasé about life – but why worry about things until they actually happen? Because they might not even happen. So by being totally present and trying to live in the now, that’s when you can really step into more trust and flow – which takes a lot of practice to do – and being in the now, in order to get you away from the future or the past, breath is really important as well. Breath, grounding, getting into nature… and just trying to be completely present in the moment that you’re at now.

Court:
It’s such a great tip. And I love the idea of writing a list… because when you write it down and you actually think about the things that could actually happen, most of the time it’s actually not that bad! And the possibilities – you’ve overwhelmed them in your head – and they seem so much worse than what it could be! And like you say, the chances of it happening are fairly minimal anyway!

Mandy:
And then when you come across those fears as well – if there’s a belief surrounding it – then you have the opportunity to heal that belief as well, so do some work with yourself or reach out to someone else to remove that belief that might be affecting other areas of your life as well.

Court:
They’re such good tips! So to wrap it up, is there anything else that you want to share around your journey with trusting your intuition or following your heart?

Mandy:
Just sometimes, it might seem totally bizarre… you might see it in a meditation, you might feel it, you might get a little sign and think it’s the craziest thing in the world… just like me going to Bali again, I just had a strong urge that I had to go there. Don’t exactly know why! But you just have to trust. And if you’ve got some sort of a pull to do something or go somewhere – same thing happened about doing my yoga teacher’s course. I was sitting at home at my mum and dad’s farm they used to have and I was just like ‘I’m just going to do my yoga teacher’s course!’ Got on my computer, googled some, booked one that day and I was like ‘Off I go!’ Didn’t know if it was for me or if I was going to teach it, but I just trusted that it was going to be something amazing. So those little voices that pop into your head, don’t push them away, listen to them. And if they keep coming back and back and back… listen to them!

Court:
I think that’s so great – and what a great example of living in the moment! Looking up a yoga course and booking it in the same day!

Mandy:
I never used to be like that! Just through a lot of work on myself, I’ve just become more sporadic and live in the now. Just my biggest piece of advice is that you have one life. If there’s something you really want to do or create or become, just make it happen. And don’t worry about what other people think – as hard as that can be sometimes – because you can either live a life that’s lead by fear and making other people happy and fitting in… but that’s not really a life that’ll bring joy or pleasure. Or you can be a bit of a daredevil and step outside your comfort zone and lead a life in alignment with what you want to do. Then generally, you’re going to be an inspiration for others and YOU’LL REALLY HAVE A HAPPY LIFE!

Court:
I think that’s so beautiful and so, so true. And on that beautiful note, I think we’ll wrap up picking your brain for all the goodness and thank you so much for coming on today!

Mandy:
Thank you for having me!


Mandy-Francisty

BY MANDY FRANCISTY

Mandy Francisty combines spirit and science to facilitate your growth and transformation. She will guide you "home" back to your true self and guide you to find your light. 

Living and experiencing the positive life changing effects of yoga, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) therapy, mindfulness, meditation, and mindset coaching herself inspired her to become qualified in these areas so that she can positively have an impact on the rest of the world! 

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